More about Khalifah Method
Extracted From http://sakana.fotopages.com/?&page=5
Malay words translated to English via http://www.stars21.com/translator/malay_to_english.html
1. The concept of Khalifah is considered “loss” in Islam because usually Muslims will identify themselves as a servant of Allah instead of a representative of Allah. A servant of Allah is just the same as any plants and tress while Khalifah is more superior than that. And the role is bigger.
2. Khalifah of Allah is the representative of Allah. Just like if you are a representative of a school, you will try to do your very best, as not to let your school down. So what more as a representative of Allah, you should be doing the best you can according to the Will of Allah. Thus, as long as you remember this, insyaAllah, you will turn out to be a good Muslim – pray sincerely, do all good sincerely.
And if you can instill this value in your child, they’ll also be able to carry out their duties as Muslim with a sincere heart, without being asked or ordered. They will throw the rubbish sincerely, brush teeth sincerely etc. Reason being, they are the Khalifah of Allah. Thus, we as parents not only make them do good but we are instilling the desire to make good.
3. Our parenting role is to ensure that our child enters a harmonious Nether World and Natural World and not just only being rich or become professional doctors or lawyers.
4. The importance of rewards in your child’s life. Khalifah Method stresses that the ratio between reward and punishment should be 350 : 1 i.e. reward should be 350 more than punishment. Punishment such as hitting, canning could leave a non-favorable impact on the child’s mind. Reward on the other hand could be in these three forms – words, physical such as gifts and inner speech.
5. Inner speech (or conscience) is a powerful tool in Khalifah Method. This actually teaches the children to reward themselves. For example, if the child finishes her homework early, without you praising her, she’ll use her “conscience” to praise herself instead. She can say something like “Wahh... I am good today.I completed homework quick. Allah will like it.” With this, they are motivated to do further good deeds.
6. It is very important to introduce this Khalifah Method early in the child’s life. First, introduce them to Allah. Show them real life example, like how the trees grow, how caterpillar change to butterfly. When they understand the scenario, relate it to Allah. Ask questions like “Isn’t Allah powerful that He does all these?” then “Do you want to be special in the eyes of Allah?” They are few other tips given on how to instill the love of Allah in the children’s mind but it’s all in my notebook back home…hehehe…
But the most important thing is to tell the children that Allah loves them.
Our mistake is usually to tell what makes Allah angry. “Don’t do this. Allah is angry.” “Don’t do that. Allah is angry”. This Khalifah method intends to shift our paradigm by looking at the positive angle instead.
7. Rewarding is basically a process of ‘shaping’. Shaping is the consistent rewarding of consecutive small steps until the child reaches the desired goals (basically desired goals is parent’s goals, but once the child is old enough to come out with his own goal in life and if its contradicts, talk, talk and talk with your kid). For example, if we want the child to be kind, since baby we already told our child that he is a kind boy, polite boy, gentle boy, even though he’s merely a baby. And he does show politeness, praise them, hug them.
8. The most important thing….Our child mirrors us. So if we want our child to become a good person, we must change first. We must be a good Khalifah first. Set an example, and insyaAllah our child will follow suit.
Malay words translated to English via http://www.stars21.com/translator/malay_to_english.html
1. The concept of Khalifah is considered “loss” in Islam because usually Muslims will identify themselves as a servant of Allah instead of a representative of Allah. A servant of Allah is just the same as any plants and tress while Khalifah is more superior than that. And the role is bigger.
2. Khalifah of Allah is the representative of Allah. Just like if you are a representative of a school, you will try to do your very best, as not to let your school down. So what more as a representative of Allah, you should be doing the best you can according to the Will of Allah. Thus, as long as you remember this, insyaAllah, you will turn out to be a good Muslim – pray sincerely, do all good sincerely.
And if you can instill this value in your child, they’ll also be able to carry out their duties as Muslim with a sincere heart, without being asked or ordered. They will throw the rubbish sincerely, brush teeth sincerely etc. Reason being, they are the Khalifah of Allah. Thus, we as parents not only make them do good but we are instilling the desire to make good.
3. Our parenting role is to ensure that our child enters a harmonious Nether World and Natural World and not just only being rich or become professional doctors or lawyers.
4. The importance of rewards in your child’s life. Khalifah Method stresses that the ratio between reward and punishment should be 350 : 1 i.e. reward should be 350 more than punishment. Punishment such as hitting, canning could leave a non-favorable impact on the child’s mind. Reward on the other hand could be in these three forms – words, physical such as gifts and inner speech.
5. Inner speech (or conscience) is a powerful tool in Khalifah Method. This actually teaches the children to reward themselves. For example, if the child finishes her homework early, without you praising her, she’ll use her “conscience” to praise herself instead. She can say something like “Wahh... I am good today.I completed homework quick. Allah will like it.” With this, they are motivated to do further good deeds.
6. It is very important to introduce this Khalifah Method early in the child’s life. First, introduce them to Allah. Show them real life example, like how the trees grow, how caterpillar change to butterfly. When they understand the scenario, relate it to Allah. Ask questions like “Isn’t Allah powerful that He does all these?” then “Do you want to be special in the eyes of Allah?” They are few other tips given on how to instill the love of Allah in the children’s mind but it’s all in my notebook back home…hehehe…
But the most important thing is to tell the children that Allah loves them.
Our mistake is usually to tell what makes Allah angry. “Don’t do this. Allah is angry.” “Don’t do that. Allah is angry”. This Khalifah method intends to shift our paradigm by looking at the positive angle instead.
7. Rewarding is basically a process of ‘shaping’. Shaping is the consistent rewarding of consecutive small steps until the child reaches the desired goals (basically desired goals is parent’s goals, but once the child is old enough to come out with his own goal in life and if its contradicts, talk, talk and talk with your kid). For example, if we want the child to be kind, since baby we already told our child that he is a kind boy, polite boy, gentle boy, even though he’s merely a baby. And he does show politeness, praise them, hug them.
8. The most important thing….Our child mirrors us. So if we want our child to become a good person, we must change first. We must be a good Khalifah first. Set an example, and insyaAllah our child will follow suit.
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